Sex and the Working Mom
So, last weekend, I joined the throngs of women around the country and saw the movie "Sex and the City". My experience may have been a little different because, instead of going with a group of women friends, I went with my husband. In fact, he insisted on it. He is a big "Sex and the City" fan and takes pride in the reaction that evokes when he tells other males. The movie was fun and I recommend it. As a married, lawyer-mom, I particularly identified with the character Miranda. And that brings me to my question.
How do you keep a healthy sex life going when you are married, working and have kids?
Since I am no expert in these things, I will define a "healthy sex life" as sex that is good enough and frequent enough that both you and your partner are reasonably satisfied. Please note, it requires that both you and your partner be satisfied. That is the tricky part.
Some couples insist on a "date night" once a week. Others go away for romantic weekends every once in a while. Still others meet their partner for lunch and a quickie from time to time. I would like to know what you have found that works. If you are not comfortable talking about sex directly, let's frame it as -
How do you keep the romance in your relationship with your partner when you are working and raising kids?
This is important because our relationships with our partners often take 3rd place, after work and children (or children and work). Yet, that is the most important adult relationship we have and romance is an important part of keeping that relationship close and warm.
I look forward to your responses.
How do you keep a healthy sex life going when you are married, working and have kids?
Since I am no expert in these things, I will define a "healthy sex life" as sex that is good enough and frequent enough that both you and your partner are reasonably satisfied. Please note, it requires that both you and your partner be satisfied. That is the tricky part.
Some couples insist on a "date night" once a week. Others go away for romantic weekends every once in a while. Still others meet their partner for lunch and a quickie from time to time. I would like to know what you have found that works. If you are not comfortable talking about sex directly, let's frame it as -
How do you keep the romance in your relationship with your partner when you are working and raising kids?
This is important because our relationships with our partners often take 3rd place, after work and children (or children and work). Yet, that is the most important adult relationship we have and romance is an important part of keeping that relationship close and warm.
I look forward to your responses.
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